Love Yourself Right Where You Are

I am so far from where I want to be. But if I have learned one thing, it’s this… There really is no time but now.

If I waited to love myself until I was thin enough, looked my ‘best’, was where I wanted to be career wise, I might, and probably will, die before any of that happens. Because I’ll probably never view myself as being at my ‘best’. At least I hope not, because… there’s only one place to go once you reach the top, and it’s not further up.

So this holiday season, when tensions can tend to run high, I’ve decided to give myself a gift. The gift of self-love. The gift of loving myself right where I am,  problems, imperfections and all.

My kids tell me all the time I’m ‘the best mom ever.’ Bless their souls. They have no idea how imperfect I am. I’m choosing to see myself as they do {before they turn into self-righteous teenage assholes} I’m choosing to love myself just as I am. Fat rolls and all. I’m choosing to enjoy life. The good, the bad, and the downright ugly. And I challenge y’all to do the same thing. Quit telling yourself you aren’t good enough.

You are good enough. Right where you are. Celebrate yourself. Celebrate life. Celebrate just being.

There is always something to be grateful for. Like, I can walk. And I have shoes. Someone doesn’t. Some people can’t walk and are confined to wheelchairs, but they aren’t paraplegic. And those that are paraplegic can still speak, and think. And so on and so on.

Someone told me after I quit drinking that alcoholism is like that game ‘whack a mole.’ That once you knock out one problem 10 others pop up in their place, and man, that guy was dead on.

I had this notion that quitting drinking would somehow solve all my problems. Ha! What a joke. All it did was magnify how bad I had screwed up so much in my life. I’m still suffering the consequences and that isn’t going to change anytime soon.

So. Be. It. I have surrendered. Waved my white flag and given my problems {usually on a daily basis} to God. God as I see him. Or her. God as I know him. Or her. Turning your life over doesn’t make your problems go away, but it is freeing.

So forgive yourself. Love yourself. Be patient with yourself.

I didn’t create my problems overnight and they certainly aren’t going to go away overnight. Stay in the present. You can’t change the past and you can’t predict the future. The only time we have is now. Enjoy it. Enjoy the mess. Love the mess. Be kind to yourself and to others. Be humble. Show grace. Be of service to others.

Love yourself. You have my permission, so do it. Do it today. Quit putting it off, there is no telling what tomorrow may bring so give yourself permission to love every flaw, every imperfection, everything that makes you so blissfully uniquely you.

Love. Love. Love. It’s all we got folks. And time isn’t going to stop ticking along anytime soon. Hold your loved ones tight. Tell them what they mean to you. That’s what this upcoming season is all about, not the gifts, although those are nice too. It’s about connecting in this oh-so-crazy world we live in. And it is bat shit crazy. And we are the only ones who can make it better. It starts and ends with love and that means loving yourself first.

Take care, you beautiful humans you. Tis the season.


3 thoughts on “Love Yourself Right Where You Are

  1. Anna May Etheredge says:

    Alexis, I am praying for you. Keep remembering there are a lot if us that love you very much. You are a wonderful person. Call me sometime, I am always there for you


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